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This is a tribute to my son's rat - Niblett.

My son received some Christmas money 3yrs ago and promptly went on Ebay and purchased himself  a rat cage. A bargain too, he declared, except that he didn't own a rat.No problem..get the sister on board and nag mum to death about one small rat..have the cousin come and stay and have her join in too..just one little rat..only a few bucks mum..so off we went.

Eoww..rats..wasnt impressed at all..still he picked one out. made sure it was a girl ( they don't have bad odour like the males) and we were off.

After a day or two the rat was depressed. Son had checked online ( the wonder of internet) and Niblett needed a mate. they were social animals. Having my son as his friend wasn't enough. So back we went. the store guy laughed and said I knew you were going to be rat people.

No 2 rat arrived home. another female. Well they weedled their way onto my hands and then my shoulders until I too, could not imagine life without a pet rat or two ( not to mention the dogs, cats, birds, fish etc)

Well they were smart clever things. not so my son..what happens when y ou place the cage too close to the lounge room curtains?? well mum comes home and says Oh how cute you have made a nest..hmm what is it made from..OH NO>>>>>> ( well I needed new curtains) and over time my son needed a new doona cover and my daughter a mended jumper. ( how can you not see the cage and leave your jumper on it all night)

time went and No 2 rat, Peedy, passed away. So we had to go and get a new friend..ended up with 2. Son had one, daughter had one.."you pick which one mum!"

Earlier this year, Niblett made her way out of the unlocked cage. Iwoke up in the middle of the night. something wasn't right. I went down the hallway.. "hi Niblett".

went to the lounge room.everything was ok..then it hit me..Niblett was in the hallway! She was on her way to visit my son. She knew where he was and she was going. I put her back , found another escaped rat and went to bed.

The next morning she was lying there hardly moving. Well she lasted like that for a week before just getting up like nothing had happened. nearly 3 months passed before today I went to say hello and she was again lying there. I gave her a pat and she left us today. Just like her friend Peedy she waited for someone to be home with her.

I really didn't think I would be so sad. They are special little creatures. the other 2 are ok but not as stuck in my heart as Niblett who overcame my fear of rats and made me love her as much as my kids.

My son who is now 16..and is constantly angry and moody..came up to me and gave me a cuddle..(very out of character) saying..you are going to be pissed but I have to tell you something..

well on Tuesday I didn't go to sport, I wagged. I sat at the train stn until 3pm.

Why? because I didn't want to be around XXX because he had taken some tablets ( that belonged to another kid with behavioural problems) and was acting like an idiot and he even suggested for me to take some. So I hit him and left.

The child( the word child doesn't seem appropiate for a 16yr old idiot) who shared his tablets has been suspended apparently.

Now..where do I start..with the school for not even marking the roll and notifying me that my son was missing from sport??? My son for wagging but having courage to tell me??for being sensible for not joining in on sharing unkown tablets??

nothing is ever straight forward...

Merry Christmas to everyone. Why is it that this year it seems nearly everyone is not organised and feeling slightly stressed?? Is it because school broke up on a Wednesday ( last week for NSW) and Christmas day is a Friday and most of us are working right up to Christmas?? Hmmm..not sure but it seems only a handful are actually well organised this year.

I have everything but am lacking in time to maintain and prepare house how I would like so am saying to myself...doesn't matter...secretly seething inside...I have a list for my wonderful children today. Miss 11 really doesn't want to be at vacation care on a hot day for such a long day ( I have to work back) so I done a deal...a wonderful list for all 3 to tick off before mum gets home. I have a new DVD for them to watch too as a reward. Nicolle has that put away. anyhow..least I won't hear them arguing from work...

Miss 11 is our 2010 Vice Captain. She is very happy with herself..I could almost hear all the girls within the school groan when they realised she wasn't Captain..it was rather amusing..We have a male Captain but a very nice one at that.

She really enjoyed herself at her dance concert and did well. So I am guessing she will want to do some more next year.

My eldest son came home safely from schoolies.. He dutifully texted he was leaving and then forgot to text me when he actually got home!! honestly they should pay for my hair dye!!!! He went straight to the GF's house. honestly ..priorities here.. He received an UAI of 79% and is so happy.. apparantely he will receive a bonus point for getting in a band 5 in English and also a couple more for applying to our local Uni so overall he has done fantasically! I am very proud of him.

Miss 11 has told her father ( as have I) how she feels so now I am taking her over on Christmas day after she gets up and opens her presents to have breakfast with him before he leaves to go on his way for the day. ( He is still ringing me everyday to see if he can just take her for the day but I keep telling him NO ..it isn't what she wants.)

So I hope everyone has an enjoyable day and remember it is only one day so if there are some rellies you are not quite fond of, they will go home eventually for another year!

the Jurys out on Xmas with Miss 11 and her dad.

she has said she would like to see him but doesn't want to go down the coast for day or night so now it is up to her father to try to be a little bit accomodating and let her know that she still is important enough to take some time out to spend with her.

I think unfortunately he will not bother..he has texted me some 'lovely' quotes about me and to just wish her a nice xmas.

Miss 11 and I have spoken and she knows she doesn't 'have' to go and that I will stand up to her dad if he gets cranky.

She is focused on other things at present. She has been nominated for school captain and this year they had an interview process with 2 teachers and 1 P&C parent. Now we have to wait until next Friday!!

her dance recital is next Sat as well. ( which technically falls on her fathers weekend- which it always seems to do everyyear. He thinks we plan it this way?? anyway she has already said apparently he is off golfing for weekend anyhow.)

My eldest son texted me ..he is on his way home from schoolies today. cant' wait until I know he is home safe.. - they drove-

Well I always know when Christmas getting close because my EX and I start arguing.

I tried so hard not too..but just lost my cool..I guess I am still angry about a 'few' things...

Its my Christmas this year..I am not being flexible though..he hasn't had a decent Christmas in 3years he reckons..last year he went to QLD to see his dad..didn't want to see kids that year..previous years he has 'kindly' returned Miss 11 home early just for my benefit..

well his brother is having a catered do and he needs her early. I was fine with this as he said he would bring her home afterwards as she said she didn't want to be so far away all day on Xmas. She said she would just really like to see him at his house , time together.  (He would normally have her 2nd half of day overnight.)

Well tonight..he can't bring her home after lunch because he is going to x's house, after lunch and then to GF's house to stay night. Miss 11 just doesnt want to go being dragged around to strange peoples houses and some relatives she hardly knows all day and night.

I suggested he have Miss 11 Xmas eve and bring her here before he goes to lunch..

that doesn't work for him. he wants to be at GF's house overnight. ( which is over 1hour away) So how was he getting her for lunch then?? coming back and going back down there..couldn't see Miss 11 Xmas night because still wants to be at GF's house and couldn't see Miss 11 Boxing day ..just because..

He then said our 'arrangement' wasn't working..his GF had better one with her EX. Ireminded him everything we have on paper were his ideas which I stupidly agreed too at time to shut him up!!

I understand he wants to see Miss 11 . I understand he wants to be with GF..I just think there needs to be a little understanding on his behalf..He already fits in with Miss 11 because she doens't want to go to GF's house on weekends. so he sees Miss 11 on the odd day here and there when it fits both of them.  Xmas is special but how do I make a 11 yr old go when she doesn't want too??

He never mentioned our eldest son who lives with him so I am assuming he is not seeing him either??

( he doesn't worry about the 'other' 2 children we have..they just don't exist in his eyes..which is where I lost my cool and just lost the plot!)